Estrangement Can Be a Natural Result of Distant/Insensitive Parenting

When children don't want to spend time with a parent, it is much easier to blame someone else in the child's life rather than taking a good long look in the mirror to find answers. It's easier to point the finger at the other parent and say the children are simply repeating what they have been told.

What if, instead, you ask for feedback about your style of parenting from people who are more likely to be objective?

Here are some people you could approach:
1  You could ask the teachers of your children, unless you don't know them.
2  You could ask the coaches of your children's teams, unless you don't have a relationship with them.
3  You could ask the counselors who have been court-ordered to provide support to your children, unless you have refused to take your children to the counseling.
4  You could ask the children's pediatrician or dentist, unless you have never met them, made an inquiry, introduced yourself, or gone to an appointment.
5  You could ask the parents of the children that your children hand out with, unless you have no idea who they are,

If you discover that you don't have anyone objective to approach, then you have some decisions to make, the first of which is getting honest with yourself about what is going on! Perhaps no one is trying to alienate your children from you. Instead, maybe they have become estranged from you as a direct result of your choices.

While it is much easier to reassure yourself by saying "well, that's how I was raised and I turned out just fine," you may decide that it is time to get serious about the direct effects of your parenting style, behavior and choices on your children.

If you do that then start trying to find ways to connect with other Moms or Dads who are finding ways to have a meaningful presence in the life of their 2 home child, and who who have a warm and positive relationship!